The guest list is underway! But who shouldn’t I invite to my wedding?

Who shouldn’t I invite to my wedding? This is one of the greatest unknowns that arise the moment we sit down and grab a pen and paper to make our guest list. Because, what is a celebration if we don’t share it with the people we love the most? 

Surely you are clear about who cannot be absent on your big day: those people who have marked your life and with whom you undoubtedly have to share your happiness. But, on the other hand, there are always doubts about whether to invite certain people or not.

Well, if this is what happens to you, keep reading and see those who you don’t have to invite to your wedding! 

After this article, you will have left all commitments behind. Or if not…you will tell us!

Friends we lost as time went by

Yes, we all have a few friends we haven’t heard from in a long time, whether they’re classmates, former co-workers, from the gym, etc.

Well, we have to tell you that, unless the friendship continues, your own wedding is not the most opportune occasion to resume that friendship, since it is a time to enjoy with the closest loved ones and not stop to think about why you lost contact with that person.

Our loves from the past

Apart from the fact that our partner is not particularly excited that an invitation is intended for our love from the past, inviting our ex to our wedding is not the most appropriate idea. 

Yes, even if you get along, this person can cause tension and discomfort in the atmosphere and, since our big day is meant to feel comfortable, avoiding this person will make everyone feel much calmer.

Those gossipy neighbours

Of course not! One of the first rules before starting your wedding guest list is not to invite by obligation.

Although that neighbour may be the most pleasant, you may have shared some exchanges or bumped into them on the landing…that does not mean that you have to invite them to such an important day!  

So, unless your neighbour is your best friend, leave your neighbours off the list! Why do people insist on inviting them? 

People who appear without imagining it

Surely you have also run into people who you didn’t know about their existence for a long time. Be it a former football buddy, an old teacher, etc.

But we have to tell you that, if you do not have a special and close relationship with this person, that you have suddenly crossed paths, that does not mean that you think about inviting them to your wedding! 

You just have to focus on the people who really matter to you, and surely that person who has appeared without imagining it, you do not mind spending your big day without them. If not, why had they disappeared?  

Distant family that we do not know or with whom we do not get along at all well

It is clear that family is one of the most important pillars in the life of almost anyone, but it is also true that this does not always happen. 

Sometimes, due to life circumstances, we lose contact with relatives, be they uncles, cousins or even parents and siblings. So, if you do not maintain contact with them, it is best to avoid giving them your invitation to avoid bad energy. 

In addition, for those relatives who have not established a relationship with you for a long time, going to your wedding can also be a commitment.

Co-workers…it depends

Unless your relationship with them is unbeatable…avoid them at all costs! And more if it is that competitive and envious co-worker who always wants to trample on you.

On many occasions, you must separate your personal life from your professional life, so think about it!

Friends from social media

Ahhhh, social media! So good for some things, and so harmful for others…

If you usually publish your day to day life on them, surely you will be dying to publish the details of your engagement, and for everyone to know that there is a wedding in sight.

Now, be careful with all those acquaintances who flood the network and with whom you only speak virtually occasionally, because surely more than one will not want to miss your wedding.

So, if they are not part of you day to day life, avoid inviting your social media followers to your wedding! 

Your parents’ circle 

Yes, there is no wedding in which parents do not want to invite people from their circle. But are they from your circle? Will you feel comfortable with their presence on your wedding day? Do you know them well enough? 

Ask yourself all these questions before inviting people out of obligation and to please your parents. Don’t feel pressured, and if you really don’t feel like having them, say no!

Those “friends” who give off bad vibes

Surely someone has already come to mind, and there are many “friendships” that do not enjoy one’s happiness and have the need all the time to criticise and wish for some disaster to happen. Envy? Perhaps. So just in case…forget about inviting them!

Be careful with those who don’t tolerate alcohol well!

Do you know someone who in a sober state is the most incredible but under the influence of alcohol they are unrecognisable? If the answer is yes, be careful when inviting them to your wedding, especially if there will be an open bar!

We don’t want any out of place spectacle to be caused by those spirits on such a beautiful and romantic day…

And at Perfect Venue we want to help you with the guest list! Consult us and you will see how we ensure that no one ruins your most special day.

Because it is a day to have a great time!